It’s been a while since I’ve been in CBT and with all of my current life transitions, I got to a point where therapy felt Necessary (covid, moving, new job, new relationship, grief, etc). Now that I’m back to weekly sessions, I feel both discouraged and exhausted. How does one amp themselves up for welcoming change and being consistent with therapy? I’m 28 and going back over my life history is neither fun nor relieving anymore. Would love some words of encouragement on this one!

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I am an over 60 female, who is reflecting on my life and what advice to give to my daughters.  I don't believe women can have the career and be a good mother.  Raising children you just have to be there for them all the time, because you can't schedule "OH you want to open up and talk now" with your children.  As a stay at home Mom, your children want you home when they arrive home from school.  They are not going to talk to you but they just need to know you are home.  So you be a stay at home Mom, and then if you want out of the marriage you have nothing to fall back on.  So you get a divorce and now you get a crappy job and your self worth falls in the toilet.  I am a confident  female and I couldn't go down this road.  I would love to hear others' thoughts.

I feel like it i just something that women are supposed to do and I do think I lack the "maternal gene" tbh. Someone once gave me advice to not have kids until you cant stop thinking about the idea of having kids ie wanting them so badly. 

I am only 29 and dating someone casuaslly for now haha but I do wonder about it. I would say it is split between my married friends if they are planning to have kids or not which is refreshing in general. I dont know just thinking out loud

How do I stay bisexual even when I am dating a man and presenting as a straight couple? A straight person... i feel lost

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Shouldn't most friendships go both ways?

Let's rewind. Flashback to middle school. I'm starting to play a competitive sport and simultaneously have been kicked out of my friend group for reasons unknown. Competitive sports carried on throughout high school and having friends didn't exist. Friday nights were spent with my Dad at the town movie theater and then crying afterwards during pizza dinners due to having no friends and feeling bad for myself (looking back I am so thankful for this time with my Dad rather than hs parties in the woods). College happens, I'm on a sports team, and have an amazing roommate. We do everything together and she becomes my best friend at school. I also start to make other friends and realize people in my high school were just pieces of **** and it wasn't my fault I was alone. Graduation hits, and my roommate and I decide to live in different cities. I kept the texting up for the first year, was always the one to reach out first and was always inviting her to my city for visits and always organized the plans. It's been over two and 1/2 years since graduation and she has not once invited me to visit her city and she has visited me about 4 times now. She also never has made any effort to introduce me to any of her new friends and will leave me on read for weeks if not months. I know she still considers me a best friend but I can slowly feel us drifting apart. I have just given up reaching out at this point and know she will just pop back in every month or so, so I just wait. I know she is responding to other people in a timely manner but I just don't understand why I'm always on pause. Do some friendships just fizzle or is ok to fight for a friendship to stay strong? 

If you're an overthinker, do you ever feel like self-rejection plays a huge role. Like whenever I apply for a job. I immediately feel as if I'm not good enought or aren't meant to apply. Sometimes wanting to doing something automatically turns into hesitation mode because I tell myself Im not meant for this or I probably won't successed

Why am I always anxious or sad? Even when I have some stability, family is fine, I have a lover, friends. I feel like nothing is gonna fix me and that's just sad. And to be always sad is so boring to be honest.

I really never thought some of my best friends would tell me I would be going to hell bc of my sexuality. I am so close with all of my friends and I genuinely built a circle that I admire and represents my values and ideals. 

But clearly I missed something among all the bible studies. It is crazy bc my one friend and I have been through so much and yet she got mad at me when I asked for space after I came out to her. She was supportive in her own way but it didnt feel right. 

Turns out it never felt right. Six months later it kept bothering me until i had to point blank ask her - do you think I am going to hell for this? She said yes. 

And the rest is history. But i miss her all the time. I dont think this is something we will ever be able to recover from.

my husband and I trying to keep our head up though grief is a process...

I want to try it but am so scared - are people super judgemental? I know on the apps when people are looking for a third a lot of people dont like that. 

I also dont want to make anyone feel uncomfortable but am very curious...

Ok so I think that is my main one and it makes me sound needy but I am really just sensitive in arguments. I know some people get along better than others but I am not one to just blurt out hurtful things. My ex was like that and it destroyed my confidence which took a full year to get back to myself.

I have been dating again and find that most people are not communicating well or accurately. It makes me feel a bit crazy and not sure if it is worth my energy. I also feel really mature for my age and dont feel like therapizing people right now. 

Idk if this makes sense - I just want to hear more from other people who have that as a love language and how they make realtionships work...platonic or romantic.

I am married to a man, and we opened our relationship at the beginning of the year. I have since realized that I am bisexual and have been dating a wonderful woman for a few months. My husband and close friends are incredible and supportive. Tips for how to incorporate her into my life/family/friends in a meaningful way, when most people know me as a straight, married woman?